If you want to infuse more tension into the family dynamics, plan a wedding and the drama will come straight to you. Everyone and their mom will have an opinion on how the couple should execute the milestone celebration.
A man put his foot down when his sister requested that he tone down his lavish wedding. He’s going all out even if she’s crying and pulling a tantrum.
They both have a wedding scheduled a month apart and the sister is tense that her brother will outdo her big day with his larger budget. Unhealthy competition ensues and they both are putting out a tough fight.
His future in-laws are wealthy so they can accommodate larger expenses but his sister can’t match that level. There is resentment and jealousy building inside of her so much so that she is seeking to bring him down a notch since she isn’t capable of meeting his standard.
The anonymous man wrote on Reddit: “The weddings were not planned to be so close, it just kind of worked out that way. I got engaged first but her husband is in the military so they had to rush things a little bit and either get married on five months notice or wait a lot longer.”
“My parents are gifting my sister £800 to help with wedding planning, obviously this doesn’t go that far.”
The sister will have approximately 70 guests but his wedding will invite more guests. “We will be inviting the entire extended family — kids included and lots of friends as well. We’ve invited about 250 people and are expecting around 150-200.”
He explained: “We saw each other this weekend and while wedding planning came up it was pretty clear how fancy ours is going to be. The food served will be over £80/plate, it’s one of the most expensive venues in the area and the musical performer is relatively well known.”
“My sister asked me if I could ‘tone it down’ so it’s not so much bigger and better than hers and so people don’t compare. She says I’m being unreasonable for not even considering otherwise and my mum insinuated that she agreed.”
Other commentators took the side of the brother as they believed the sister let her insecurities get the best of her. One person wrote: “I get it that your sister feels insecure, especially with the weddings so close but that’s not your responsibility.”
While another added: “Don’t adjust your wedding to accommodate your sister’s insecurities.”
Always raise the standard; the bar should never be lowered to meet other people’s expectations.